FORGIVENESS What Does the Bible Say . . .

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The Bible teaches us to be kind to one another and it is not always easy.

There is awesome power in forgiveness.

Think to yourself for a moment: Who are you angry at?

 

  • What did they say?

  • What did they do?

  • How did the heap upon you something that you can‘t hardly live with it daily?

  • You don‘t want to see the person.

  • Don‘t want to speak to the person when you see them even when you are able to speak, you think you are rid of them, but you‘re not – deep down inside whatever you think you did to get rid of them didn‘t work.

 

You can‘t get rid of anger by placing yourself on a new destination. Something has to happen on the inside of you.

 

I am about to share something with you that by the Power of the Holy Spirit can Change your life and It will set you free!

 

Many people know they are angry and many do not. They are living enslaved by attitudes of anger, bitterness, and hostility. Enslaving Attitudes is like Caustic Poison, leaking into your system.

Outside it is invisible. Inside it is eating away at you. Physically you cannot avoid the consequences of anger.

 

How do you handle anger? Some may say, ―well just ask God to rid you it. No, it‘s not that simple.

 

First let‘s start by examining the definition of anger, forgiveness, unforgiveness and true forgiveness:

 

  1. Anger:  A strong feeling of intense displeasure, hostility or indignation as a result of a real or imagined threat, insult, frustration or injustice toward yourself or others important to you.

  2. Forgiveness:  The giving up of resentment against someone and our right to get even no matter what has been done to us. It is the surrendering of your right to hurt those who have hurt us.

  3. True forgiveness: Says, I don‘t hold it against you. (Saying you‘re forgiven and experiencing forgiveness is two different things.)

  4. Unforgiveness:  Is the deliberate willful, refusal to give up one‘s resentment and right to get even based on the wrongful thought that somebody needs to pay.

  • Here‘s what he did to me, my family or I; Somebody‘s got to pay.

 

Unforgiveness DEMANDS payment

Obstacles that stand in the way of Forgiveness:

1. Wanting to forgive somebody.

a. The bottom line is, once you are ready to forgive someone, you will. But until then it is an obstacle.

 

2. Rehearsing whatever they did to you.

a. You go from person to person telling others what this person did to you. Weeks, months and sometimes years later you are still talking about what this person did to you. This is called rehearsing and rehearsing is a hindrance to you, an obstacle that stands in the way of forgiveness of this person.

 

3. Pride

a. This is a major issue.

 

4. Fear

a. Worried that the person may take advantage of you, of rejection or that they believe you are weak.

 

5. Being Misunderstood

 

6. Negative Advice: Friends advice is not godly advice.

 

7. Partial Forgiveness

a. Partial forgiveness is like partial disobedience. (Well I can forgive this, but not this…)

b. Partial Obedience is Disobedience

c. Partial Forgiveness is unforgiveness

 

8. Just don‘t feel like it.

a. As long as you don‘t feel like it, you will never forgive

b. So you just say I forgive you to someone and say to yourself it‘s settled. No, it‘s not settled.

c. It is one thing to say you forgive someone with your lips and another thing to feel it in your heart.

d. It is evident when you have genuinely forgiven someone and when you have not.

 

9. Try to justify the wrong others have done to you.

a. They probably didn‘t mean what they said or what they did or made an unintentional mistake.

b. You try to justify what other‘s have in order to get around dealing with the issue – you are still enslaved by an unforgiving spirit.

 

Excuses: Many people use to avoid dealing with the issues that may keep you from being liberated and to gain freedom from the enslavement of anger as long as you are unforgiving.

IT IS VERY CRITICAL & DANGEROUS THINGS TO HAVE AN UNFORGIVING SPIRIT. IT AFFECTS ALL OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND YOU PHYSICALLY.

MATTHEW CHAPTER 6:12-15

 

"This, then, is how you should pray: " 'Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one. For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

 

This is a conditional sentence…

It is the MOST CRITICAL STATEMENT IN THE BIBLE!

IF YOU REFUSETO FORGIVE , YOUR FATHER WILL REFUSE TO FORGIVE YOU. THIS DOES NOT REFER TO YOUR SALVATION,

Ephesians 2:8-9 (New International Version)

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.

 

If our father is not forgiving toward you for something going on inside of me … THEN MY RELATIONSHIP WITH THE FATHER IS NOT RIGHT!

 

Living in willful and known sin is serious condition.

 

God, will not answer our prayers because if he did he would be condoning Sin, agreeing with Sin which would be outside of his character.

 

A UNFORGIVING SPIRIT EFFECTS EVERY ASPECT OF OUR LIFE ONE REASON SO MANY PEOPLE ARE NOT BLESSED IS DUE TO THEIR ANGER, HOSTILITY, CAN‘T FORGIVE OR THEIR REFUSAL TO FORGIVE. ―SAYING THEY DON‘T DESERVE MY FORGIVINESS BECAUSE…

 

IT IS JUST CAUSING YOUR SELF PAIN. IT IS LIKE A BOOMERGANG – IT COMES BACK TO YOU AND YOU‘RE THE ONE THAT IS HURT.

 

AN UNFORGIVING SPIRIT WILL DESTROY YOUR LIFE

 

It is Critical, detrimental and has a destructive attitude. It separates you from your fellowship with God, not your relationship. I caution you to read the Matthew 6:12-15 very carefully and understand what you are reading. Matthew 18:21-35 (New International Version) The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant (a parable is a truth, a principle.)

21Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?"

22Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

―Speak of the story….‖ There is no limit to the number of times to forgive.

35"This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart."

 

JESUS HAS FORGIVEN ALL THAT YOU HAVE DONE TOWARD HIM FROM THE DAY YOU WERE BORN, YET YOU WILL NOT FORGIVE SOMEONE WHO HAS WRONGED YOU?

THERE IS NO JUSTIFIABLE REASON. THE BIBLE DOES NOT PROVIDE FOR A BUT, IF WHAT OR EXCEPT.

 

*** IT IS DANGEROUS TO NOT BE FORGIVING AND MANY OF US TAKES THIS TOO LIGHTLY***

 

SUFFERING: MANY PEOPLE ARE SUFFERING ON THEIR JOBS, IN THEIR HOMES, IN THEIR FINANICES, WITH THEIR CHILDREN, HAVING PROBLEMS AT THEIR JOBS AND IN THEIR HEARTS BECAUSE:

 

UNFORGIVENESS BY ITS VERY NATURE IS A DISTROYER, A DIVDER AN ENSLAVER.

 

Positions: God has positions for many of his people in the church, on their job and elsewhere but because you have an unforgiving spirit, it stops you dead in God‘s tracks for them. God hates unforgiveness.

 

Ephesians 4:30-32 (New International Version)

30And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

 

Sometimes you hear Christians say ―I‘m standing on the Word as stated in 1John1:9 and that settles the issue. No it does not settle the issue…

 

1 John 1:9 (New International Version) If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

 

Genuine confession: is when you agree with god about the nature of it, the sin and what needs to be done about it. 1John1:9 does not settle the issued. An unforgiving spirit toward someone damages you continuously and your relationship with God is hindered somehow.

You may look as though you are doing well on the outside, and you may even continue to try and rationalize it. An unforgiving spirit is poison, slavery and you are not released from this penalty of this sin until there is a genuine heartfelt Godly forgiveness toward that other person.

 

Genuine Forgiveness: is difficult and it is not instantaneous.

You have to ask yourselves just what are you willing to do about it.

 

Here are the First Steps and things that you need to understand and accept toward genuine Forgiveness.

 

1. It is our responsibility to take responsibility to take the initiative in dealing with forgiveness.

a. Some will never deal with it.

 

2. Forgiveness is not easy

a. Divorce: Shock, God Knows, not instantaneous, You will have questions

b. Don‘t allow anger to become a form of deep rooted bitterness deep down inside of you…Forgiveness needs to come as soon as you are capable and mature enough as a believer can deal with it.

 

3. Forgiveness is the most unselfish acts we can perform.

a. You must be willing to surrender your claim on that person of having to pay.

b. Despite the fact that you may feel that is unfair, and he did this or that, the bottom line is, what is God‘s instructions?

c. You can not be in a Right Relationship with Jesus Christ with an unforgiving spirit.

You say, I just can‘t do it, I am here to say… ―Yes You Can!‖

 

Go through the steps, practice until it becomes an experience for you inside your heart.

Steps to Take when Dealing with Forgiveness

 

1. Acknowledge you have experienced God‘s total forgiveness, that you are saved by his grace, love, goodness and mercy and not because you deserve it, but because God has been forgiving you all of your life because he loves you.

 

2. Confess anger, hostility, bitterness, resentment and range toward whoever it is and be very specific.

a. This will help you to break out of the bondage, slavery, sex addiction, alcohol addiction… be very personal about it.

 

3. Realize and acknowledge the fact that unforgiveness is a violation of the Word of God. Be open and honest remembering God‘s Word Matthew Chapter 6. – The Critical Statements.

 

4. Ask God to forgive you. Be specific for what you have done. Make no conditions, as the Bible does not provide for conditions.

 

5. Lay down this anger. (Example: By an act of my will, I chose to lay down my anger by the power of the Holy Spirit who lives within me.‖ After the full acknowledgement.

Genuine Forgiveness builds no defenses, no limitations, and no demands.

Some people will rather die before they say that they are wrong or have wronged you.

 

WHEN YOU AND I DEAL WITH FORGIVENESS IN OUR LIVES, WE SET OTHER PEOPLE FREE! THIS IS HOW THEY SOMETIMES BECOME SAVED. YOU ARE BOTH SET FREE WITH TRUE GENINUE FORGIVENESS. IT COMES FROM THE HEART, NOT THE MOUTH.

 

Suppose they live far away or have passed away.

 

The Chair Method…

 

1. Imagine, visualize, and say exactly what you would say, just as if they were sitting in front of you.

2. Afterwards Claim by faith that this is the end of it.

If they are alive and you are nervous and not sure what to say…practice 3-4 times or more until you are ready. You will melt their hearts will you tell them that you have something important to say and it has taken X amount of days and that you had to practice to get it right.

 

How do you know when you have genuinely forgiven this person?

1. You have no harsh feelings

2. You are free and experiencing the freedom.

3. You have a different attitude.

4. You feel compassion for the person which liberates you and the chains has lifted.

5. You are willing to accept the person for who they are understanding that they are not perfect. The Goal is to win Freedom for you and them.

6. You then can look back and say thanks to God for teaching your about his Grace in this fashion, allowing you to experience his teachings that would not have come about had he not allowed you to go through this experience.

 

CLOSING

You do not have to hold on to: unforgiveness, resentment, hostility, bitterness or be chained, in bondage, imprisoned by an attitude that is a continuous destruction that goes on in your life over and over again.

 

PRAYER:

It is my prayer that you will be wise enough, as God our Holy Father have brought people to your mind even while this hour is gong that you need to deal with that you will be wise and courageous enough to deal with.

Let God Set you free.

Your testimony to your spouse co-workers, friends and children you will not be able to keep it to yourself because a free man is different from a slave man.

Heavenly Father…I pray that we are wise enough of take these steps that will set us free and more than like someone else free.